Why I'm No Longer Embarrassed By Infertility
1 in 6 couples in Canada are struggling with infertility
It's a topic you don't hear discussed all that often because most couples are embarrassed about it. I was once a part of this group of people. Infertility is hard. It is mentally, physically and emotionally draining. The last three years I have been on this journey through infertility. There is blood work, reproductive testing, ultrasounds and prescribed fertility drugs. The physical side of things is almost easy compared to the emotional side. It is so difficult hearing things like; “When are you having a baby?” “I thought you would have been pregnant by now?"
It's embarrassing and hard when you're struggling with infertility. Sometimes you might not know what to say. I think many of us on this journey shrug off these questions that cut us so deeply. But ultimately, these questions make me want to break down and cry. What if that woman you are asking when she is having a baby, just recently had a miscarriage? What if she has a disease and cannot ever have children? What if she needs help to get pregnant, because she can't on her own? Whatever the reason behind a woman's infertility it is probably difficult, emotional and kind of embarrassing. We need to be sensitive to this.
We were taught women get pregnant, have a baby and live happily ever after. But it's not that simple anymore and we need to heighten our awareness of this issue. With so many couples struggling with infertility, we ought to be aware that things have changed. We have to be more careful about the questions we ask. After all the decision to have children (or not) is extremely private.
On this infertility journey you're probably fighting with yourself constantly. 'Why me?', you ask yourself over and over agin. I don't have the answer and I bet you don't either. What I do know is when you want something you can't give up. You have to keep going no matter how hard it is.
I have thought a lot about infertility, my own journey and struggles. For a long time I was not public about it. I didn't want to talk about it and I was afraid people were going to judge me. I used to only talk about the topic with my husband, close friends and family. As time went on, I read about women struggling with infertility in social media groups. A lot of them benefited from opening up about the struggles. Learning about this discussion and opening up lite a fire in me.
One day I mentioned to my husband that I wanted to start a Facebook group for women struggling with ANY type of infertility. I wanted to share my story and hear other stories of women who were on the same journey as me. I started openly sharing my journey on my personal social media channels, before I started my Facebook group and realized there were lots of women going through similar things as me.
It's comforting to know that I'm not alone in this. I've created a safe space for women struggling with infertility to share their journeys. We just want to be loving mothers during our time here on earth and we will go through whatever it takes to get there. Deciding to share my story publicly has helped me overcome the embarrassment of infertility. I feel free because I am 1 in 6. I am an Infertility Warrior.
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This is a Guest Post By Danielle Howe. After struggling with infertility for years, Danielle Howe is opening up about this heartbreaking experience. She wants to be a Mom so badly and she's doing all she can to make it happen. Here, she shares a look behind the scenes of infertility and her road to motherhood. She's still on that road today and openly shares her story to remind others that they're not alone in infertility. She also inspires through her positive outlook.
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